Personal Relationships
Personal Relationship Coaching for Senior Leaders and Founders
We work on the romantic and family relationships that have come second to a demanding career, so the people closest to you are not just enduring you anymore.
- Executive Psychotherapist
- 1,000+ Clients Transformed
- Trademarked Rewire Method
About this work
What personal relationship coaching with Nicky Anstey actually involves
Personal relationship coaching with Nicky Anstey is one to one work for senior leaders, founders and executives whose romantic, family and close personal relationships have been on the back foot of a demanding career. The work uses the trademarked Rewire Method to address the patterns shaping how you show up in connection, alongside the practical skills and presence the relationships need now.
This page sits in the wider relationships cluster.
When you have a partner who has stopped expecting much
The marriage is fine, technically, but quieter than it used to be
The marriage is fine, technically. They do not complain. The kids are doing well. But there is a quieter ache underneath: a sense that the people closest to you have settled for the version of you they get, rather than asking for more.
Some of that is your career. Some of it is the patterns you brought into the relationship years ago that have just compounded, often perfectionism showing up as emotional distance, or people pleasing showing up as never quite being honest about what you need.
How the work moves
Personal Relationship Coaching for Senior Leaders and Founders
The work addresses three layers at once.
- Pattern. The unconscious moves you make in close relationships. Worked at the root with psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and NLP.
- Skill. Listening, presence, repair, conflict, intimacy. Practical, specific work on what changes when applied.
- Presence. The actual time and attention the relationships need. Often the missing piece even when the pattern and skill are improving.
Sessions are usually one to one. Where it serves the work, occasional joint sessions with a partner can be discussed.
Clients whose marriages came back
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“I just wanted to say how transformational my sessions have been with Nicky and I would wholeheartedly recommend her.”
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“The most powerful timeline work I’ve ever done – gentle, insightful, and deeply effective. Nicky is truly the best.”
How You Can Work with Nicky
Nicky works with a small number of clients at any one time. Every engagement is delivered by her directly, with no associates and no handoffs. Most clients begin with a Reset Call and from there choose the right programme together.
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See Rewire Coaching
Rewire Coaching
The signature one to one programme, built on the trademarked Rewire Method. Where most clients begin.
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See Executive Coaching
Executive Coaching
For founders, directors and senior leaders at the top of their field who refuse to pay for performance with their health.
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See High Performance Coaching
High Performance Coaching
For high achievers who already perform and want the inner state to match the outer results.
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See Leadership Coaching
Leadership Coaching
For leaders who feel the weight of every decision and want to lead from a steadier place.
Succeed Beyond Your Limits
Twenty minutes with Nicky, one to one. No pitch. Honest conversation. If her work is the right fit, she will say. If it is not, she will say that too.
Why Nicky
Why Work With Nicky Anstey
She has lived it. Nicky experienced severe burnout during her own corporate career, then built her businesses through significant personal and health challenges. The story is not background. It is the reason the work goes deeper than most coaching.
She has the qualifications to go deep. Nicky is a qualified Executive Psychotherapist, Master NLP Coach, Master Hypnotherapist, Master Life and Business Coach, and a Registered Nutritionist aligned with medicine. Five disciplines inside one practitioner. Most coaches hold one.
She has the results. Over 1,000 clients have worked with Nicky and gone through the trademarked Rewire Method. Reduced pressure, clearer thinking, stronger leadership, healthier lives.
She is not a generalist. Nicky works specifically with high-achieving business owners and senior leaders. The people who others assume are fine, because they are still performing. Read more about Nicky here.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Is this couples therapy
No. Couples therapy is a separate discipline. This is one to one work on the patterns you bring into the relationship.
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Will my partner come to sessions
Usually no. Where it serves the work, occasionally yes.
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I am divorced or separated, is this still relevant
Yes. Often more so. The patterns that shaped the previous relationship are usually still in play and worth working before the next one.
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Will we look at my parents and family of origin
Where useful, yes. Most adult relationship patterns have roots earlier in life. Nicky does not chase history for its own sake but uses it where it makes the present work faster.
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Online or in person
Both. Most clients work online.
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Is this confidential
Yes, strictly.
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Is this the same as Rewire Coaching
It uses the Rewire Method, with personal relationships as the focus.
Working Across the UK and Internationally
Most one to one work is delivered online, which means Nicky works with business owners and senior leaders across the United Kingdom, Europe and internationally. In person engagements are arranged by appointment for corporate workshops and select programmes.
Transform to Perform Coaching
Godalming, Surrey, UK
Ready to Book Your Reset Call
Twenty minutes, one to one with Nicky
Share a little about what is going on. Nicky reads every enquiry personally.
Book your free Reset Call
No obligation. Confidential. 20 minute call. Fit check for both of us.
Case Study
[PLACEHOLDER. Client whose marriage or family relationships reset]
[PLACEHOLDER. Short story in Nicky’s voice.]