Relationships
Relationship Coaching for Senior Leaders Who Have Been Married to the Job
We work on the personal and professional relationships that quietly suffered while the career came first, so the next chapter has more in it than just work.
- Executive Psychotherapist
- 1,000+ Clients Transformed
- Trademarked Rewire Method
About this work
What relationship coaching with Nicky Anstey actually involves
Relationship coaching with Nicky Anstey is one to one work for senior leaders, founders and executives whose relationships, at home and at work, have been undernourished by a long career of putting work first. Nicky is a multi award-winning Executive Psychotherapist whose practice integrates psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and NLP through the trademarked Rewire Method.
The work covers both personal relationships (partners, children, family) and professional ones (boards, teams, peers, co-founders) at the level of pattern as well as skill. Two deeper pages sit underneath this one.
When the people who matter started feeling like an afterthought
You did not mean for it to happen, but it happened
The career grew. The role got bigger. Relationships had to take less of you, and the people in them adjusted. Now they have a version of you that is mostly absent, mostly distracted, mostly tired.
Saying you want to repair that is one thing. Doing it without falling back into the same pattern is another. Underneath, you usually find perfectionism translated into emotional distance and people pleasing translated into never quite being honest about what you need.
How the work moves
Relationship Coaching for Senior Leaders Who Have Been Married to the Job
Inside the Rewire Method, relationships are addressed at three levels.
- The pattern. The unconscious moves that shape how you show up in connection.
- The skill. Specific work on listening, presence, repair, conflict, intimacy, board dynamics, hard conversations.
- The architecture. The actual time and attention required for relationships to function.
Two deeper pages, depending on which side of life is most in question:
- Personal Relationships ? partners, family, close friends.
- Professional Relationships ? peers, boards, co-founders, direct reports, key clients.
Clients whose relationships came back to life
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“I just wanted to say how transformational my sessions have been with Nicky and I would wholeheartedly recommend her.”
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“The most powerful timeline work I’ve ever done – gentle, insightful, and deeply effective. Nicky is truly the best.”
How You Can Work with Nicky
Nicky works with a small number of clients at any one time. Every engagement is delivered by her directly, with no associates and no handoffs. Most clients begin with a Reset Call and from there choose the right programme together.
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See Rewire Coaching
Rewire Coaching
The signature one to one programme, built on the trademarked Rewire Method. Where most clients begin.
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See Executive Coaching
Executive Coaching
For founders, directors and senior leaders at the top of their field who refuse to pay for performance with their health.
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See High Performance Coaching
High Performance Coaching
For high achievers who already perform and want the inner state to match the outer results.
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See Leadership Coaching
Leadership Coaching
For leaders who feel the weight of every decision and want to lead from a steadier place.
Succeed Beyond Your Limits
Twenty minutes with Nicky, one to one. No pitch. Honest conversation. If her work is the right fit, she will say. If it is not, she will say that too.
Why Nicky
Why Work With Nicky Anstey
She has lived it. Nicky experienced severe burnout during her own corporate career, then built her businesses through significant personal and health challenges. The story is not background. It is the reason the work goes deeper than most coaching.
She has the qualifications to go deep. Nicky is a qualified Executive Psychotherapist, Master NLP Coach, Master Hypnotherapist, Master Life and Business Coach, and a Registered Nutritionist aligned with medicine. Five disciplines inside one practitioner. Most coaches hold one.
She has the results. Over 1,000 clients have worked with Nicky and gone through the trademarked Rewire Method. Reduced pressure, clearer thinking, stronger leadership, healthier lives.
She is not a generalist. Nicky works specifically with high-achieving business owners and senior leaders. The people who others assume are fine, because they are still performing. Read more about Nicky here.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Is this couples therapy
No. Sessions are usually one to one. Where appropriate, occasional joint sessions with a partner can be discussed, but couples therapy proper is a separate discipline and Nicky will refer where needed.
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I am already in therapy with my partner, can this run alongside
Yes. Many clients use this work to do their own one to one piece while couples therapy continues separately.
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Which page should I start with
Whichever side feels heaviest. The two underneath this hub each go deeper.
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Online or in person
Both. Most clients work online.
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Can my company sponsor this
For professional relationships, yes. Personal relationship work is usually self-funded.
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Is this the same as Rewire Coaching
It uses the Rewire Method, with relationships as the focus.
Working Across the UK and Internationally
Most one to one work is delivered online, which means Nicky works with business owners and senior leaders across the United Kingdom, Europe and internationally. In person engagements are arranged by appointment for corporate workshops and select programmes.
Transform to Perform Coaching
Godalming, Surrey, UK
Ready to Book Your Reset Call
Twenty minutes, one to one with Nicky
Share a little about what is going on. Nicky reads every enquiry personally.
Book your free Reset Call
No obligation. Confidential. 20 minute call. Fit check for both of us.
Case Study
[PLACEHOLDER. Senior leader whose key relationship reset]
[PLACEHOLDER. Short story in Nicky’s voice.]