Perfectionism
Perfectionism Coaching that Rewires the Pattern at the Root
We rewire the unconscious belief underneath your high standards, so excellence stops costing you your time, peace and sleep.
- Trademarked Rewire Method
- 1,000+ Clients Transformed
- Executive Psychotherapist
About this work
What perfectionism coaching with Nicky Anstey actually is
Perfectionism coaching with Nicky Anstey is one to one work for high-achieving business owners and senior leaders whose standards have quietly become a cage. Nicky is a multi award-winning Executive Psychotherapist and Master Hypnotherapist with more than 15 years of practice. Her perfectionism coaching uses the trademarked Rewire Method to work the unconscious belief underneath the standards, so excellence stays and the exhaustion falls away. Your standards are not the problem. The fear underneath them is. That fear is what gets rewired.
What perfectionism actually looks like
Perfectionism does not look like perfection
From the outside, you are the person everyone relies on. Always prepared. Always polished. From the inside, it is different. You cannot submit anything until it is rewritten three times. You cannot delegate because they will not do it the way you would. You cannot start if you cannot start perfectly.
That is not a work ethic. That is a pattern. It sits on three close relatives. Fear of failure. All or nothing thinking. Procrastination disguised as preparation. Underneath all of it sits a fear that is older than the business. Strategy will not move it. Rewiring it will. The pattern usually travels with people pleasing and imposter syndrome, and all three are addressed inside the Rewire Method.
How the work moves
Perfectionism Coaching that Rewires the Pattern at the Root
Psychological research consistently shows perfectionism is associated with increased risk of anxiety, burnout and lower wellbeing. Studies in Psychological Bulletin reported a sharp generational rise in perfectionism among young adults. It is not a minor trait. It is a driver.
The Rewire Method addresses perfectionism on three levels:
- Step one. See the exact shape of your perfectionism. The Perfectionist Quiz and Cost Calculator gives a clear first read. The Reset Call maps it in more depth.
- Step two. Rewire the unconscious belief underneath. Using psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and NLP, the fear that drives the standards loses its charge.
- Step three. Rebuild the working week around the new pattern. Standards stay. The exhaustion does not.
This is the same trademarked process behind every Rewire Coaching engagement.
Clients who have done this work
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“I just wanted to say how transformational my sessions have been with Nicky and I would wholeheartedly recommend her.”
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“The most powerful timeline work I’ve ever done – gentle, insightful, and deeply effective. Nicky is truly the best.”
How You Can Work with Nicky
Nicky works with a small number of clients at any one time. Every engagement is delivered by her directly, with no associates and no handoffs. Most clients begin with a Reset Call and from there choose the right programme together.
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See Rewire Coaching
Rewire Coaching
The signature one to one programme, built on the trademarked Rewire Method. Where most clients begin.
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See Executive Coaching
Executive Coaching
For founders, directors and senior leaders at the top of their field who refuse to pay for performance with their health.
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See High Performance Coaching
High Performance Coaching
For high achievers who already perform and want the inner state to match the outer results.
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See Leadership Coaching
Leadership Coaching
For leaders who feel the weight of every decision and want to lead from a steadier place.
The Standards Stay. The Cost Comes Off.
You do not have to choose between excellence and your nervous system.
Why Nicky
Why Work With Nicky Anstey
She has lived it. Nicky experienced severe burnout during her own corporate career, then built her businesses through significant personal and health challenges. The story is not background. It is the reason the work goes deeper than most coaching.
She has the qualifications to go deep. Nicky is a qualified Executive Psychotherapist, Master NLP Coach, Master Hypnotherapist, Master Life and Business Coach, and a Registered Nutritionist aligned with medicine. Five disciplines inside one practitioner. Most coaches hold one.
She has the results. Over 1,000 clients have worked with Nicky and gone through the trademarked Rewire Method. Reduced pressure, clearer thinking, stronger leadership, healthier lives.
She is not a generalist. Nicky works specifically with high-achieving business owners and senior leaders. The people who others assume are fine, because they are still performing. Read more about Nicky here.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Is perfectionism a mental health condition
Not a diagnosis in itself, though strongly associated with anxiety, depression and burnout when untreated.
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Is this work about lowering my standards
No. Standards stay. The exhausting fear driving the standards is what gets rewired.
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What is the Perfectionist Quiz and Cost Calculator
A free, short self assessment Nicky built to help you see where perfectionism is showing up and roughly what it is costing you in time and revenue.
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Will I need hypnotherapy to rewire perfectionism
Hypnotherapy is one of the most effective tools for rewiring the unconscious belief underneath perfectionism. Used where it will help.
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Does perfectionism cause burnout
It is one of the clearest drivers into extreme pressure and burnout. Rewiring it early is preventative.
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Will I lose my drive
No. You lose the fear. The drive stays, no longer fuelled by fear.
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Is this the same as Rewire Coaching
Perfectionism coaching uses the Rewire Method, with perfectionism as the focus.
Working Across the UK and Internationally
Most one to one work is delivered online, which means Nicky works with business owners and senior leaders across the United Kingdom, Europe and internationally. In person engagements are arranged by appointment for corporate workshops and select programmes…
Transform to Perform Coaching
Godalming, Surrey, UK
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Twenty minutes, one to one with Nicky
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Case Study
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